While procrastinating writing, I’ve come across lots of tweets saying things like:
“I wish I was a character in a romance book.”
or
“The only male pov I care about are in romance books.”
I dunno… It kinda seems like people are pedestal-ing the characters and scenarios in romance books.
While it’s true that the idea of a relationship we have when we’re younger doesn’t take into account all the crude edges under the hood of the relationship (like compromises, and when things get dull), it doesn’t mean that romance book relationships are so out of reach.
In real life, people meet all the time under dreamy happenstance – like running from the rain and having to share an umbrella… or while out vacationing somewhere exotic and meeting at one of the tourist spots.
But, in real life, even if you meet your new SO when you were waltzing through a field of daisies – there’s going to be some relationship mechanics you both have to work through, like if he likes bowling, but you don’t, and wants to spend some weekends with you bowling.
People are individuals, and in healthy relationships, we must always remember that. When you enter into a relationship with someone, you’re agreeing to share your life with theirs. It’s not going to be about you or them, but about you both. It’s a whole other person you’re accepting – someone who has a history, a future, and a present.
As long as you’re mindful of that, then YES, romance book stories absolutely do happen in real life! Just… you’ll need to make some compromises here and there.
I think the reason why people think romance book stories are so far removed from reality is because they refuse to accept compromise is a part of relationships.
OMG! I didn’t mean for this to be some kind of relationship post :P… But, yeah. I think it’s just sad that people think romance books depict some sort of mythical experience that never happens.
I feel like I should write a book in the Kana Series where the characters have a surrealistic relationship, but also show the compromise side of things. What do you guys think?
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